When do you move them out to their room?

I’ve been good about putting my daughter in her cot, and she loves to sleep in it. The next phase of moving her to her room, however, is going to be difficult.

In India, it’s kind of normal for the kids to sleep in the same room as the parents till they are five or six, sometimes even later. I am not sure how I feel about it. I mean, I know it’s good to move them out sooner rather than later, but when I actually do it, would I be worried about her at night? Will I go to her room five times at night to check on her? And I am not even getting into how she’ll take to it, or rather not take to it, knowing my two-year old!

It’s easier when there are two kids, I guess. I have two siblings and we used to sleep in our room as kids. I, being the youngest, was always happy to be with them, we’d joke and laugh (and fight!) at night and I loved it. But, in the case of my daughter it’s going to be different, since she’s the only one, and, because I’ve been a stay-at-home-mom, she’s quite clingy.

But thinking about it, I’ve realized that it’s as much about me as it is about her. I first need to be ok about it and only then will I be able to convince her. Kids are really smart about knowing how serious their parents are about something they want them to do. If she detects uncertainty, or even leniency, in my voice when I tell her, she won’t do it. She knows when I mean business and when I don’t!

So I have to think about it a little more, and then break it to her only when I am sure. But, I have to say, I will miss her at night (see what I mean??) – miss peering into her cot to see if her blanket is still on her and to see her angelic sleeping face – aren’t they so very angelic when they sleep!



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3 responses to “When do you move them out to their room?

  1. I think it also might depend on whether you’re going to have another child or not. Do you want both kids in the room at the same time? If not, then you need to prepare WAY ahead of time to get used to sleeping in the other room. I had a friend whose daughter was out of her crib and in a “big girl” bed, but when baby brother came, she wanted her crib back! There’s this whole sibling rivalry thing you have to deal with when #2 comes along (and I hope I’m not discouraging you from having another child!)

    I’m not a huge supporter or opposer of co-sleeping or sharing a room with your child b/c many times, like you said, there are cultural considerations you have to make. Whatever you’re comfortable with. And ask your husband too. He might surprise you with a preference…

  2. Yep, it’s one of those things you agonize over. I planned to start my son sleeping alone in his room when he turned 6 but he had a really bad fever those days so the “opportunity” was lost. 😦 I’m thinking when he goes into the first grade in June….

  3. We started our children sleeping in their own rooms when they were about 6 weeks old, but that is due to the fact that if they sleep in my room, I hear every little breath and movement and I get no sleep. I am a much better mom with sleep!

    You have to do what is comfortable for you and you will know when the time is right!

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