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Your quandary is yours and yours alone, no one else cares..

Winter is tough at the best of times, so with lack of sleep and wailing babies, it seems close to intolerable..but wait I am a mother, how can I lose patience?? I hear that kind of asinine talk all the time. In my mommyrage mood, this is enough to make me lash out hard.

Why is the world not more understanding of mommies and their issues? (no pun intended!) Be it the workplace or at home, a woman is pretty much on her own to figure it all out. If you have a good boss you’ll get some understanding but expect no more, come on we all have kids and they get brought up somehow so stop whining if you are at work – that’s the general attitude. No surprise then that most super-successful women are either single or have children who hardly know them.

You can’t do both, if you want to do both things well..no matter what anyone says..not possible. Ya lots of women work and bring up kids but the question is – how much do they miss out at work because they are not willing to put in that extra time? A lot. And if you take the hot-career path, then the kids will not get the kind of attention they need. No two ways about it.

It’s not fair. My situation does not allow me to leave my daughter at home, yet when I told my boss, who was perfectly happy with my work, that I wanted to work from home, he told me I’d be setting a bad precedent! HR (go on, fire that distasteful gun) would not be happy, and one would rather displease God than HR!

So here I am, (mommy)blogging to keep my sanity, and wondering if I am good for anything else.

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It gets better, but not really

Ok so you get through these sleepless times by thinking that it gets better, and it does, but only so much..talk to some moms of older kids – and by older I mean kids between 6-10 years, because any older than that you’re looking at being forty something yourself and by then the getting-better thing is not going to be enough to cheer you up!

So getting back to my point, it really does not get that much better. Sure, you’re not dealing with an infant but a six year old needs a lot of attention and time too, maybe even more than an infant, because now they have a mind of their own and have to be dealt with carefully. Then there’s the homework, out of school activities, and like a million other things. And you deal with this all by your pretty self…where is a husband when you need him??

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If you feel it, it’s real.

Motherhood is great. Ok so I agree. But is it great all the time? Not really. But most mommies won’t admit it, some warped guilt thing, yup I have it too, that blessed guilt.

But, guilt or not, mommyrage is a reality and every mother I have spoken to has felt it at some time or the other, weather she recognized (or admitted it) it or not. Think about it, your body and your mind too has gone through a lot, you’re probably worried about work, your home is a mess that never seems to clear up, your head seems cloudy and it certainly does not help that you are four sizes too big for your clothes. You never have time for yourself and are constantly planning your life around your baby’s sleep and the day he/she wakes up earlier than usual, it’s going to be baked beans and rice for lunch! And don’t even talk about laundry..that’ll have to wait till you have abs nothing to wear!

So what do you do? Well, you do something about your anger first (easier said, I know) but it’s going to harm you and no one else will care.

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