My four year old has been an angel since my twins were born almost ten months ago. She’s been caring and, mostly, patient. That, however, has changed. Was too good to last I think.
It’s happened because of multiple reasons. One, the novelty has kind of faded and she has realized that they are here to stay! Two, and more importantly, the twins are now asserting their will, demanding my attention, crawling into everything, including her toys. She sits down to do a puzzle and they want to grab at it. I can understand her irritation but with the two of them around it is difficult to stop them all the time.
From the beginning I have given 90% of my attention to my older one, just so she does not feel left out. I often leave the twins crying and come to her, but now it’s getting very difficult. She’s become extremely moody (the fact that summer break is on and her mind is idle has compounded the problem!) and tells me not to pick them up. To make matters worse I had gall-bladder surgery and was away to the hospital for a couple of days. In my absence she cried her heart out and was inconsolable, to the point that I decided to return home a night before I was scheduled to! Am recovering now but cannot do much right now. But it seems that my leaving turned some switch inside her, she’s sooooooper clingy now, does not want to leave my sight and does not want the twins anywhere near me.
For now, till I have recovered fully, I have moved the poor babies out to the other room with my mom and the maids, and my older one is with me and my husband. But that is going to change soon. I am handling it, and she does love them too, plays with them a lot, but when it comes to me, she wants me all for herself..sigh..I know it’s something I have to deal with, but ti’s going to take some energy and patience and with just three days having passed since my surgery, I am a little tired and can do without tantrums!
7 responses to “Drop the baby mama!!”
wow..you sure have your hands full…take care and get well soon!
Hi, this is my first time here. I can’t even imagine how you manage with three kids below the age of 5. I have one two-year old girl and she’s a handful. Hope you get well soon, will be back for more.
Err…hello. Was directed here by the Mad Momma. Am expecting twins in the next few weeks and have an older daughter about 3 years old…so seems like I will be back to check out how things go with you and your three!
All the best…
Hi! Well, I know how you feel! Feel free to ask me what you want. What I will say is that get all the help you can, and when the babies do
arrive, give more, lot more, attention to your first one. Also, you can’t breast feed two, so don’t become a zombie trying to do it or get into any guilt!
Keep me posted. Have lots to say. Will hold it for now.
hopped here from another blog- and am expecting twins in october. Have a 3 yr old so many of your stories are begiinning to seem like they are going to be my stories in just a bit 🙂
Yes, our stories are quite similar. It can be trying at times, though now the hard part, in one way, is over for me. They are almost a year old.
Time flies and you do deal with it, but it’s hard at times. Get lots of help. Give your older one a looooot more attention, I can’t say this enough. Because not matter what you do, he/she will still feel alone at times. Also, you are so short on patience at times that you scold the older one, and that, is a terrible mistake. I am trying to be patient.
Good luck. Let me know if you have any questions.
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